Sunday, May 16, 2004
Sunday 16th May 2.45am
Saturday has passed me by, and i was wrong in assuming Friday was gonna be a short day. though we were officially dismissed at 12.30, my group only left NTC eventually at 5.15, though it was puntucated by a long long lunch break at Jurong Point.
This holidays seems to be the season of heartbreaks and heartaches, but doesn't every holiday seems like that? Or is it that relationships are getting shorter, people getting fickle? Or perhaps people were too rush in getting into the relationship in the very first place? Well.. only the parties themselves know it best, or do they?
What is love? and how do one measure love? or distinct it from infatuation? I was told by a friend that if u feel uneasy when u dun see the person, that feeling is kinda like love? But is it really the case? Love ought to be a two way thingy between two person isn't it? So if one was to feel uneasy about the other person, without reciprocrity of any feeligns from the other party do we still say that it's love? I wouldn't think so but whom am i to say that i am right and they are wrong.
Talking with Cheewee just now(we went to get Rongming's present) set me thinking again; all along i have held my own perspectives on the issue of love and relationships.
I am one who believe that two parties should be together only if they like the person for whom they really are, and not for what they do for the other party during the process of courtship, which doesn't mean i don't believe in doing sweet things for the other party during courship.
But for how long can one assume the identity of someone whom they really aren't? You can be a gentlement during the process of courtship and you can win the girl's heart by doing all the sweet little things and telling her what she wants to hear (perhaps you are feeling otherwise at times), but wouldn't she be falling for this
gentlement instead of whom you really are? How can one expect to maintain a relationship built on pretence and acting? Hmm perhaps that would seem overly critical and harsh but does it really not contain any pinch of truth?
But Cheewee was also right that one got to put in effort, as in not to expect not doing anything and yet expect to win the girl's heart. I agree with him as in it is so hard to seperate the two issues. How to actually do sweet little things for someone whom you may hold feelings for, yet not wanting her to like you for what you do, but for whom you actually are.. but then again if Love was so easy to break down and be explained, wouldn't there be no heartbreaks and heartaches.
Cheewee was right, and i am also aware myself all along that i should perhaps throw thinking aside, and instead just to follow the heart and go into relationships instead of thinking of
what ifs and evaluating all the possible reasons that why a potential relationship do not work out. After all if love can be rationalise, can be explained everyone would have been happily in love...
JIONG TING ♥
Sunday, May 16, 2004
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